HE SAID I SAID
Dating is the strangest thing. I was stood up last night. The guy I was supposed to go out with for a movie and dinner said he would call by a certain time, and confirmed the time via text message. Not only did he not call when he said he would, but turns out he was purchasing a bike instead of going out with me. I just had to put this out there...I think it's so funny I could scream. This dialogue is word for word sent via email (and not text message).
I SAID: Were you in the hospital last night in a coma, or did you break your fingers and were unable to call at 5:30 as you said you would?
HE SAID: a-ha, no I was arguing with the guy at Performance Bikes trying to wrap up this deal until after 8-PM.. Then they had to tune it up and it was past 9 when I got home.. I have an indoor volleyball game tonight, what are you up to tomorrow night or Wednesday night?
HE SAID: I'm always a reliable person.. I apologize for not calling this is not something that occurs with me normally I was locked in this process and I guess I could have stopped to make a phone call but they were closing at 6 and we were still trying to work things out..
I like you, I wish I could see you again but if you feel so strongly about it what can I do to make it up to you? I had a great time with you last Thursday, did you enjoy yourself? I hope so, and I didn't realize you would be upset since I explained what I was doing. However, you are right I will admit it is better to call and talk to someone.. Will you forgive Me hon?
I SAID: you didn't explain. remember, you didn't call.
HE SAID: I know I didn't call, I sent you a text message of the bike I was trying to buy.. I thought you might be happy for me and I seriously didn't know you would be upset. Also, I was not aware that you did not get the message until today.. Again, I'm always a reliable person, always on time and I always do what I say.. I guess it doesn't seem that way from what you have seen but people that know me know that about me.
I SAID: Why is it fair for you to waste my time? Even if I had received the text message you still stood me up, for a bike nonetheless. I don't know if I can make this any clearer to you, and you must understand I am not upset, I am disappointed. No doubt you are a man of your word to your friends, but yesterday you were not a man of your word to me.
HE SAID: I'm a man of my word to everyone, I didn't plan on buying a bike yesterday. However, they had a 50% off sale and I would not have received the same deal if I walked away.. Meaning I would not have a bike because someone is buying my old bike today right after work. If I would have walked away the same bike would have cost me $1,,600.00 more anywhere else any other time. I realize now how much I disappointed you and I hope you can forgive me hon.. I like you and you 'do' deserve to be treated nicely, that is all I want to do.
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AND THIS IS WHERE I STOP WRITING CAUSE I DON'T THINK HE GETS IT! A 50% OFF SALE SURE DOES BEAT A DATE WITH A PRETTY GIRL?
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Wow, what a moron! Is he 12 years old or what??
Sigh. Honestly I feel a bit sorry for him not getting it ~ some people have to learn that other people's priorities are not the same as theirs and , No, your sweetie may not be overjoyed at your good fortune at getting that cool bike/poker hand/handbag/whatever you spent time, effort & money on instead of them.
I never post, but I'm going to make an exception here. I don't think his priorities are the problem here. From his point of view, his priorities ARE straight. Bike first! Then some other things.....and a few more things.....this and that....and if there is time, and it's not inconvenient.....then your date, and your feelings. This is all assuming that "common courtesy" was out the window right off the bat.
Basic priority structure of someone I want to date:
People first.....things second......
Personally, I think he blew it at not taking the *initiative* to apologize. It comes across as trying to sweep it under the rug that he completely stood you up.
If he knew that he said he would call you at a specific time, he should have made it a priority to do so. Doesnt matter what time the place closed, or how cheap the bike was gonna be - he knew he had something to do before he even walked into the place. (txting a confirmation takes 1 minute tops).
A person who is "always reliable" understands this, and acts accordingly.
And the worst part? He kept referencing the bike during your conversation, instead of directly addressing your valid questions and complaints.
I want to be understanding, but I say DTMFA.
why don't people sometimes have some perspective on what kind of person they are being?
anyway, MOVE ON.... :)
The one thing I can see from his POV is we men can have the attitude of: I’m not changing my priorities for a girlfriend.
I’m not excusing him though.
And you two are dating, which means this is what he’s like in the first phase of romance. Imagine what he’d be like once he starts taking you for granted!